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>> No. 29003 Anonymous
11th October 2019
Friday 9:26 pm
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I am constantly angry. I think it's a response to stress, anxiety, and sometimes disappointment. I've put in non-stop effort towards some big goals. Very rarely, it pays off, but more often it doesn't.

Recently I've been so run down that I'm starting to get stomach cramps. A few weeks ago, I followed a car around a corner and down the road because it beeped at me at a pedestrian crossing. Honestly I just wanted to throttle the driver. I'm losing my sense of humour. I'm becoming very cold towards others, and I don't feel fit to socialise. Work colleagues have begun asking me if I'm okay. I've picked up an old habit of shouting in the shower, and occasionally when I'm trying to go to sleep.

I do already have physical outlets like exercise, but I have a habit of overdoing it, especially during frustrating periods. I already have minor shoulder and elbow injuries from these last few months. I also don't know if it's a good idea to continue piling on cortisol -- exercise is another form of stress after all.

I feel like I need to recover, and for someone to care. But no one does. This is all private, and people would think I'm crazy or unstable if I bring up how I'm really feeling. People only care about your external performance. And no one cares whether you succeed or fail, or the effort you're putting in. They only care about the finished package.
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>> No. 29005 Anonymous
12th October 2019
Saturday 10:35 am
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>>29003

Sounds like you need to find a way to relax mate. Whatever that might be, something that breaks you out of your stressful routine.

Could be anything really, long walks in t'country, smoking a spliff, meditation, yoga, having a load of wanks, just something separate from your usual daily routine that you find enjoyable really. Time for yourself where you allow yourself a gap from daily worries and stresses.

Or fuck knows maybe get into mma or some shit, release it through beating up/getting beaten up by other angry fuckers.

Sage for probably terrible advice.
>> No. 29006 Anonymous
12th October 2019
Saturday 2:45 pm
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>>29003
I would second the recommendation for meditation. Weed could help but don't end up relying on any substance to regulate your emotions. You should find some form of therapy honestly, or perhaps you could try the new NHS thing that's out, I've yet to try it myself but I plan on it: https://www.nhs.uk/oneyou/every-mind-matters/

Only heard about it as it was on the news, the website got overloaded immediately. Worth a look in I reckon, either way I hope things get better for you.
>> No. 29007 Anonymous
12th October 2019
Saturday 10:48 pm
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Try boxing.
>> No. 29008 Anonymous
13th October 2019
Sunday 4:07 am
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Boxing to relieve the stress, meditation to relieve the aggression from boxing, a bit of speed to counteract the dosiness from meditating, weed to balance it all out.

Ez pz.
>> No. 29009 Anonymous
13th October 2019
Sunday 4:14 pm
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I feel you.
Sage because this is as much as I can offer.
>> No. 29010 Anonymous
13th October 2019
Sunday 9:23 pm
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You remind me of my father. Numerous times he has chased down fellow drivers because of some percieved slight against him. He once broke a mans nose because that man made an innocent comment to my brother and me as children.

Just recently my father actually sped up into traffic at a junction so he could be angry that someone 'cut him up'. I tried to explain to him that his decision to drive so aggressively caused a rift between him and the passengers of the car and asked 'was it worth it - putting your families life in danger?'. His only responce was an agressive 'I was right'. It seems clear to me that's his only concern - being right. He carries a lifetime of regret on his shoulders; it's like the weight is a stand in for justice, as though carrying such a burden demands respect. It's as though if he can just get those little bits of order it'll justify the rock on his back.

I often wonder what do we actually get angry about? Is it the slight or the disrespect? Have i actually earned respect? Did i show respect while throttling that guy who dis-respected me? Just who actually am I to demand respect of strangers?

I think noone cares about your achievements and efforts, and nor should they - not because they're without value but because they simply don't know. That's why being cut up on the road should mean nothing; they're nameless faceless - just like you. High chances are that you wont recognise them. A strangers insult doesn't have to hurt. They don't even know your name. And this is cause for laughter, if only at the situation.

Unjust expression of anger only prolongs the agony - slamming doors and smashing glasses does not grant relief, you're just adding adrenaline to the equation. As insignificant as it sounds, channel that rage into closing the door gently with exact perpose in turning the knob and catching the latch. If nothing else it'll confuse whoever you're acting for (perhaps even yourself). When you feel the emotion begin to boil, breath calmly and count to ten - close your eyes if you have to.

:)

>I also don't know if it's a good idea to continue piling on cortisol
Could it be roid rage?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HZZSYDhx0FI
>> No. 29011 Anonymous
14th October 2019
Monday 12:22 pm
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>>29010
> As insignificant as it sounds, channel that rage into closing the door gently with exact perpose in turning the knob and catching the latch. If nothing else it'll confuse whoever you're acting for (perhaps even yourself). When you feel the emotion begin to boil, breath calmly and count to ten - close your eyes if you have to.

I don't know why this resonates with me.
I only hope I'll remember it once I find myself in another outburst again.

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